Question:
What do people have against unique names!?
Pomagoldendoodlecockapoodoo
2007-11-21 07:21:23 UTC
Everytime I see people asking about unique baby names, their answers are incredibly rude more often than not.
Anyone who actually happens to like the name gets a bunch of thumbs down, and the asker gets tons of responses of, "How about Ashley?" or "I like John instead."

What is this!? As a huge fan of unique names myself, what is it with people that they want to name every kid in the world John? I don't get what's wrong with uniqueness.

Also, they get tons of answers saying "kids are cruel."
Well, I don't know where you grew up, but I have never in my life heard anyone get made fun of for their name.

Somewhat unrelated, but it's a huge pet peeve of mine on here that people offer suggestions for baby names that are complete opposites of what the asker is looking for.

I just don't get it. It's called variety. No need to stick to names that are 500 years old. How do you think those names ever came about? People made them up. It's like the circle of life for names.
37 answers:
GreenEyes
2007-11-21 07:35:09 UTC
Well I think you are wrong.

Of course kids pick on other kids for any reason and specially on the strange or different names.

I endured that all my life, because I have a different and unusual name. Also I keep on spelling it out to others even now after more than 35 years.

So don't tell me about unique names being nice.

It is stupid of parents giving that burden to their children for no reason at all, as there are thousands of nice name combinations without being weird or extremely eccentric.
2007-11-21 09:04:47 UTC
I love unique names. However there is a fine line between unique and obviously made-up (taking a name and spelling it backwards for example) or intentionally misspelled to either make them unique or to change the gender.



I asked awhile back for opinions on unique names and most everyone who replied said 'those are too weird and they aren't pronounceable at all'. To each their own.



People tend to mock and criticize anything that they are not accustomed to. If it's unique and different, that automatically means it's bad to them.



I was given a weird name that I hated with a passion. I got made fun of because of it even into high school. There were a ton of things I could have been picked on about instead but I wasn't. So yes kids are cruel.



On top of that, my parents insisted on a pronunciation that didn't even match the spelling and would get pissed off to no end when someone pronounced it according to how it was spelled. It was very embarrassing and humiliating to go through that.



I know that most people won't agree with me, but if you have your heart set on a unique name, follow your heart and use it. Don't let random strangers decide for you because in the end, the only one who decides is you.
2007-11-21 07:45:48 UTC
There are few points to consider.



First, I'm a big fan of uncommon and underused names. A few that I've suggested and/or given the thumbs up to include Atlas, India, Endellion, Journey, Leocadia, Hadley, Gideon and Malachi. The world does not need another Emma or Jacob, even though both names are pleasing.



But I think the desire to be unique can go too far. The following strike me as so unusual that they don't make for good choices:



* Choosing a common name and opting for an outlandish spelling to make it "unique."



Kaelyy or Peightyn isn't unusual; it's just misspelled. I think any name is half sound, half appearance. If the sound is common, then the name *is* common, no matter how many vowels are added or changed in the original. Four heads still swivel when you call "Chaela!" on the playground, and your kiddo will never, ever see her name spelled right on the first try.



* Choosing a noun name that is an awful lot to live up to.



I've given the thumbs down to Jolie as a first name more than once, because what girl wants to be named Pretty? While few people speak French in the US, jolie is one of those words that kids pick up, especially in high school when everyone's taking languages. Imagine - you're struggling with braces and acne when your classmates discover your name means pretty. Ouch! Likewise, some names are overly masculine, like Maverick. It's got an appealing sound, but it's too cool, too gunslinger for everyday use.



* Choosing a noun that has a negative meaning.



Bane sounds like a good name for a boy. Caprice sounds like a good name for a girl. But there's more there than sound. The definition for the first is, roughly, burden. And the second means fanciful - but also cruel.



* Choosing an exotic place name and changing the spelling.



Place names are fabulous. But changing Havana to Havannah is awkward. An unusual name that everyone can spell is the best of all worlds. An unusual names that everyone *thinks* they can spell, but you have to correct? Shudder.



* Inventing a name that doesn't have roots.



While I agree that most names were made up at some point, many of those creators were writers of rare talent. Shakespeare is a biggie. I don't write as well as Shakespeare, so I'm willing to concede that my DIY approach to naming might also fall short. So while Gracelyn is a pretty elaboration of an established name, Miloynia is just a random set of syllables strung together.



* Giving a name that has no escape route.



If you name your daughter Langston, her middle name ought to be clearly feminine. If you name your son Jory, his middle name ought to be something a little more common. Langston Kate and Jory Alexander are great names. But giving your kiddo the equivalent of Moon Unit - unusual first, unusual middle, no nickname options? Big mistake. Your child might grow into the name, but odds are better that your child will never be comfortable with it.



We've got not just 500 years, but all of written record to comb through to find names. I agree that there's no need to stick to the Top 50, Top 100 or even Top 1000 when choosing a baby name. But people come to Yahoo! Answers to get honest reactions from a wide swath of the community. And if an idea is less than great, you'll know - not only will the John/Ashley crowd not care for it, but neither will those of us who routinely give the thumbs up to the more exotic monikers out there.



One final point - unique means a set of one. Leocadia is a seldom heard name, taken from my trusty Book of the Saints. But even if I name my daughter Leocadia, or Leacadie, she won't be one of one. She'll be one of a handful throughout centuries. I think that's often the best we can do.
?
2007-11-21 07:38:41 UTC
My daughter is named Brenna, it is unique and yet a very old name at the same time. My name is Lisa and I wanted something unique because there were at least 2 Lisa's in ever class that I ever had and I didn't want my baby having that problem.



She is 16 now, everyone calls her Brenda when they first meet her, never can spell her name and have always asked me in front of her where did you come up with that or plainly told me "That's different".



Kids are very cruel and I have heard of many kids being made fun of for their name.



Colin

Rebbecca

Andrew

Venicia

Delcia



I live in New England and kids do get made fun of for their names and any other made up reason here and everywhere.



My second child is Peter, when he was tiny and people would ask me what his name was and I would tell them Peter more often than not their response would be " Oh, such a nice normal name", then I would tell them, it is the right name for him just like Brenna is the right name for my daughter.



I wouldn't change their names, they are Brenna and Peter.



I will make sure that if I have another one their name will be very difficult to make fun of and if unique something strong and suitable with that baby.
Irish Mommy
2007-11-23 19:33:11 UTC
I'm not sure if this is in agreement or not (kind of took a different turn toward the end there LOL), but I LOVE real, but completely underused names.



Those on our own lists often range from familiar, but not exactly top-ten, classics, to authentic Celtic choices some might not recognize (not simply misspellings of already-common choices, such as "Aidyn" and "Konner" ROFL) to VERY unfamiliar, but again equally real and historic choices.



Given that, I can nearly always appreciate an actual name that happens to be uncommon at the moment. It doesn't really matter if it's one I would personally use or not. After all, any valid name -- whether simply unusual or perhaps inherent to a certain language or culture -- should be respected for it's intriguing departure from the norm. ;)



And it's so unfortunate when you see comments like "Siobhan sounds nice, but I don't like YOUR spelling ... what about Chavonne?" or "Althea is old and ugly! Why would you do that to a child?" or "Mariska is a great name -- if you want your daughter to be teased mercilessly." Seriously, folks, with all the completely created names and blatant misspellings out there, I doubt a child with a real, but unusual, name will be the ones at the brunt of most schoolyard ridicule.



Quite the opposite, actually. Children have little concept of naming trends or popular vs. uncommon, so the little Daras and Desmonds in their kindergarten class will often be seen as no more unusual than the Emilys and Jacobs. However, as the years pass and they know a larger number of children with those popular names, they WILL recognize that Emmuleiagh and Jaykubb are the odd ones out, or that a Chaise is a chair (not just another way to spell the word "chase"). LOL In other words, uncommon is rarely the problem when it comes to children's names. It's the adults who assume there's an issue there.



And I have to agree. It's so tiresome to constantly see suggestions completely opposite of what the poster is asking for. If they're looking for unique, they get "Madison, Addison or Nevaeh!" LOL And if it's genuine Irish they're looking for, they get "Braelon, Katelynn and McKaylah!" ;) Seriously?



But I disagree with the last paragraph. The names that "are 500 years old" ARE usually the uncommon ones. Generally speaking, recently coined names are often looked down on because they are already boring and overused. By the time some random first-time parent hears something like Nevaeh (with the compulsory "Heaven spelled backwards" byline), it's already in the top 50! And yet they think it the most creative, unusual option out there. ROFL Unfortunately, that's the problem with names that don't have a great deal of history behind them. For them to be considered "new names" at all, they'd simply have to catch on. And when they catch on, they shoot up the charts, remain there for a bit, and start to sound very boring and dated, very fast.



Likewise, trying to actually be creative and "make up" your own name usually doesn't fare any better. Often because those trying to do this aren't actually using any new, previously-unused ideas. Rather, they simply opt to combine sound elements from already-existing names and/or add a fairly predictable set of random prefixes and suffixes (Ka-, De-, La-, Key-, -la, -ley, -lyn, -qua, -ka, etc.) in their attempt at newness. Given that, most of these creations still manage to sound oddly familiar, often only a sound or two away from names that are already common and overused themselves. So rather than actually using something unique, all they've managed is unfamiliar and less attractive, but still eerily similar to the same-old, same-old. Blah.



So to summarize:



Using one of the MILLIONS of properly-spelled names that happen to be completely underused or even rarely heard-of? Wonderful! Thinking yourself particularly creative for naming your child DeJaidyn'ley, Emison or Kireneg (that's "generic" misspelled backwards LOL). Um ... not so much. ;)
2007-11-21 09:37:26 UTC
First of all "unique" means one of a kind not just uncommon -it is an absolute so there is no such thing as very unique - so let's get the English lesson out of the way.... second most "unique" names are some made up stupid sounding nonsense - examples are endless - I think the worst are the made up African American names with apostrophes in them. Bad also though is the "cutesy" or "unique" spelling some people use for common names - makes them look pretentious at best but mostly just retarded.
tuff~luv
2007-11-21 10:11:14 UTC
Well, people come on here and ask others what they think about certain names, and if they don't want to hear that alot of people think it's absolutely stupid and horrible, they shouldn't ask!

I agree about when people just start randomly suggesting other names. That's annoying.

I agree with other people about it's the unique spellings that seem to cause the most problems. As soon as it becomes obvious that you're trying to be different when naming your baby, it becomes annoying.

Poor babies.
Mike&Beki.
2007-11-21 08:15:43 UTC
I prefer unusual names peter , paul , mary , jane etc. so boring and old times change and people need to move forward not backwards a couple of people I know have named there sons George and Alfie WHY . Me and my husband are expecting our first baby a girl in 9 weeks and were calling her Akela Paige . I dont think kids get picked on for their names if children are going to pick on another child there many other reasons which have nothing to do with the name they have.

Your child your choice though I say .
?
2007-11-21 07:52:16 UTC
I agree with you 100%. I actually wanted to name my daughter Nacona Wicappi.....it is a native american name meaning wandering star. I loved that.....but I ended up naming her after family members instead. Her name is an old name, but it is not used that much any more. Mary Wilayne. Her middle name is after my mother in law, that is very unique because her mother just made it up!

It fits her well, and Mary too!
oy vey
2007-11-21 07:42:32 UTC
Whatever happened to a little thing called personality? Try using your mind and your talent to distinguish yourself from others and let your children do the same.



Too many of these Uunikee names are just horrible made up misspellings. I am not against unique. I am for correct spelling. If you want to call your kid Turkey Baster Smith do it, but spell it correctly! Don't call them Terkee Beaisterr Smith and then get upset when people correct you or ask if you intended to spell it that way.
2007-11-21 07:37:44 UTC
Im not against unique names or anything.. but I dont know what YOU grew up.. must have been middle of nowhere. because I grew up all over the world and everywhere you go people make fun of names.

Brooke Paige- (none unique name) people called her book page!

an ex BF of mines mothers initials were PMS- and she said she caught HELL growing up with those!



So believe it or not.. kids are cruel. they make fun of people for lots of different things. but if its not the name its going to be something else.



I think most people have issues with unique names because of getting the saying of it incorrect. People these days get so offended when someone doesnt say their name right that most people dont even want to attempt to say it! the spellings these days is rediculous. why do you need a million different ways to spell the same name?!
2007-11-23 12:41:31 UTC
i knew this girl named alphelia and her last was balls haha get it

she got made fun of so much

and alot of other kids get made of fun of for there names too

theres nuthing wrong with unique names its just sum ppl have to try so hard to be unique and that tottally ruins the point

saying that u like unique names is so stupid

and i hate it when ppl name a kid sumthin just so they can be unique and then sumone asks them how did they come up with that they just say oh i really wanted to name him sumthing unique and theres no meaning behind the name

like my friend named her son taffy just cuz she likes taffee

unique names are cool as long as ppl arent doing it just to be different like if they have a reason or meaning behind it

and if u say i wanna be unique or u try to be unique your deffanatly not

cuz its not sumthing that u have to think about its sumthing that some ppl just are ( =
2007-11-21 08:46:20 UTC
It depends what kind of name.

Also the people are honest. That's all that matters. I think that if people weren't honest and everyone said they liked it, then what's the point of asking. The person should be prepared because not everyone has the same opinions that you do. Plus, you want to be critiqued right?

About the thing people give suggestions opposite to what the person asks, they might just end up loving the name and using it.



HAPPY THANKSGIVING!
coolteamblt
2007-11-21 10:12:19 UTC
For me, there's a difference between 'unique' and 'too bizarre to contemplate'. Things like Augustus, Graciela, or Idalia are very unique, where something like Jazlynne, Naveyeah, or Pollandreena are just not even in the running.



There are some names that are just awful. There was a person on here that wanted to name their child "Cinnamon" and wanted our honest opinions. I personally didn't say "OMG NOOOOO" but I did give my honest thought, which was "sounds like a stripper name". There are different types of people on here. Some of us prefer underused traditional names, and others prefer names that are new, with no history, and painfully trendy. People also want to express their opinion not just through their answer, but with their rating. If they feel that "Alyssa and Alyson" are too close for twin names, but people keep saying "SO CUUUUUTE!", they will give that answer a thumbs-down to let the questioner know that many people disagree with that answer.



I rarely say something like "your kid will hate you and get beat up if you name them that," because I don't think names like Arcadia, Rowan, or Wolfram would get them beat up. Names like Shithead, De'Juantez, Quevyn, Lynx Onyx Jungle Diamond Hunter Master, or Lucifer won't necessarily get them beat up, but it will put them at a disadvantage in the professional world.



I personally hate names that are super trendy, like Ashley, Madison, Nevaeh, or anything rhyming with Aiden. They used to be very nice names, but when you ask for a 'unique' name, that's all you'll get. Names that have history behind them like Daphne, Theodore, and Hector are becoming less common, and therefore more unique than Ava, Tristen, or Emma. Sometimes people ask for 'unique', and they really mean 'modern and trendy' but they don't know that's how the people in this community define that.



I hate when people ignore what type of names you like. It makes me wonder if they even read the question carefully! At the same time, I have a couple of names that were suggested to me that I wouldn't have even thought of that I like, such as Avery for a girl, Deacon, or Makenna. I usually hate newly created, unisex, trendy, mispelled names, but I like these.



I also think that there's a difference between using a newer name and making some crap up and calling it a name. I acknowledge that some people think of Rayne, Skye, Brooklyn, Jade, Honey, Necklace, Denim, etc as names, but they haven't been used until very recently. Things like Nevaeh come across as very trendy and ignorant. Not everyone needs a name like Henry or Catherine, but they are staples with more modern nickname options that will age well. Someone did have to make up a name, but people nowadays really aren't doing that great of a job at it!
noname
2007-11-21 07:32:46 UTC
A lot of "unique" names are ordinary names re-spelled in such a way as to cause the child trouble throughout his life. Others are gobbledegook. Almost never does one of those teenagers lost in baby-name fantasy propose naming it a simple madeup word, no Kuck or Jish or anything phonetic and simple. Instead they cram together all the syllables they can think of when they invent the name.

And they never come right out and suggest naming the kid Unique or Individual or even Myownself.
L H
2007-11-21 07:34:32 UTC
Mostly it's a matter of the rules of speech. Most of us on here are practicing English as a first language and when you change

Sara

to

Syra

it sounds differently it's not a saringe it's a syringe,

you completely change the name, who wants their child to be named Nic Hole, which is what your looking at here.

being unique is one thing, but rearranging the laws of our language to suit yourself gets old for the rest of us. If you want you child to have an unusual name then find one, or think one up, don't respell Jennifer jynniphir and expect it to be special.

And kids are cruel and will make up rhymes and taunts, anyone who thinks it's not a possibility has their eyes closed.
?
2007-11-21 07:34:29 UTC
I agree, however, there are parents who instead of for instance, Kevin, they spell the name, Quevenne.



OR, Using multiple capital letters or apostrophes. They DO have to learn to spell their name in kindergarten/1st grade.

Ma'Kenzie (no) Makenzie (yes)



I also believe that names like Sally, John, May, Greg, Tom, June, Bob, Dennis, are now unique. Names like Kaylie, Hannah, Mackenzie, Aiden, Ava, are now much less unique due to everyone wanting a more unique name and picking those.



You are right about YA! People will suggest the dumbest crap. It's like they don't even listen to your particular style of names, they just force their style on others. "I like the name Dante"...."Name him Bob!"
Sit'nTeach'nNanny
2007-11-21 08:38:24 UTC
Unique names are fine--it's the unique spellings I have a problem with!
Babydoll
2007-11-21 07:47:32 UTC
I love unique names to a certian extent Jordans new babys name is ridiculous but I want my kids to have unique names.
2007-11-21 07:32:12 UTC
well, for starters, define "unique" i know Im sick of all the jaydens. caydens. haydens. aidens.....etc. I have nothing against made up names, but they should be beautiful, and other people should have the respect not to steal them from new parents. this is how names become so overused!
LilyRose_69
2007-11-21 08:12:35 UTC
THANK YOU!!!! I myself not so long ago asked a question about the names Ramsey Catherine and Vienna Janae, which is my daughters name. I think out of the 70 responses that I got, 2 of them were positive about BOTH of the names that I chose. I don't understand why people want their kid to have to go by their last initial in school. Madison B, Madison F, Madison T. What is so appealing about that??? I don't get it, as a mom to a Dillen, Kalahan, and Vienna, I will never understand what is so "cool" about a "normal" name.

Ashley, Morgan, Kim, Peyton, all used to be considered "manly" names. So what if a mom wants to name her little girl Ramsey, there was a woman on here who wanted to name her little girl James, which I thought was adorable. Who cares if a mom wants to name her little girl Ryann, WHATS THE BIG DEAL????



THANK YOU FOR ASKING THIS QUESTION!!!
Mitza
2007-11-21 07:35:24 UTC
i could go both ways i understand both sides....



i love unique unusual names but i can understand people wanting old fashion traditional ones as well. to each there own i say.



but i do agree people should be a little kinder both ways if people want unusual name then suggest those if the want ordinary traditional names suggest those no harm no fowl



good luck
2007-11-21 07:30:28 UTC
i personally dont have anything about unique names. if i ever decided to have kids i'd pick for them unique names.

but kids are cruel, its a fact.
michelle hitsman
2007-11-21 10:15:03 UTC
People can name what they want for their kids!

I plan to give my kids unique names, such as Isabella, Genivievia, Jasmine, Noah, Alex, And Max.







i Want to name my last kid Monkey,

so there you go.

Im on your side.
D.C.
2007-11-21 07:54:03 UTC
A LOT OF THE NAMES ARE JUST PLANE WEIRD . WHY WOULD YOU IN YOUR EGO TRIP PUT A STRANGE HANDLE ON A KID THAT WILL CARRY IT FOR LIFE ? AS FOR NOT HEARING ANY KID MAKING FUN OF A NAME , WELL NOW YOU HAVE . IT WAS MY LAST NAME THEY MADE FUN OF AND IT LED TO FIST FIGHTS . I DON'T KNOW WHERE YOU GREW UP AT , BUT IT WAS COMMON PLACE IN THE MID-WEST WHERE I GREW UP .
n♥
2007-11-21 07:31:05 UTC
I know! I don't get it! My daughters name is Kamyrn and people are always like isn't that a boys name? It makes me so mad! I don't want her to be made fun of from her name when she gets older. I feel the same way as you and I think that was a very good guestion!
Sydney
2007-11-21 07:29:26 UTC
Because there are morons out there who want to ruin their kids' lives with names like Princess Tangerine Sparkle or Thor Thrasher Lightningbolt. If I can say anything to make them change their minds, I'm going to try. I couldn't live with myself if I didn't.







Note to Breanna H.-- the "aus" in Faustine is pronounced much like the "ous" in house. Faustine is a feminized version of the name Faust.
queeny
2007-11-21 07:30:26 UTC
I have a unique name and so does my daughter, and i wouldnt change it for the world. I completely agree with you and dont understand why people try so hard to blend in with the crowd!
2007-11-21 08:57:10 UTC
i like names that are not unique OR overused...





like Mallory, Molly, Rebecca, Anna, Jackson, Dawson, Collin, etc!!
2007-11-21 18:00:23 UTC
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!



I remember one time (actually, many times...) that someone asked if a name sounded good together, and then someone suggested a REALLY girlish sounding name... like Marie Alyssa Elizabeth...something like that. And the name was definally not a name that the other person had in mind. Anyway, it made me want to vomit!



I think I like unique names because I want to be a writer (mainly fantasy.) and in fact, right now I'm keeping a list of cool, unique, short but sweet, names from other countries, and names that you would only find in a fantasy book.



I'll give you a sample of my list. The complete list has 366 names!



Short-but-sweet:



Sophie

Kirsti

Amy

Alice

Gwen

Sadie

Naomi

Bailey

Dewey

Morgan

Bridget

Wendy

Nikki

Elliot

Charles

Harvey

Rey

Riley



Unique names (in my opinion.):



Sinpo (Sin-poe)

Sandin (San-din)

Azy (rhymes with hazy)

Ency (N-cee)

Esha (eh-sha) OR (E-sha) I can't decide.

Neshia (Neh-she-a)

Gaven (Gah-ven)

Sorrel (Sore-rel)

Laith (rhymes with Faith)

Ione (Eye-oh-nee)

Synclair (Sin-clair)

Topaza (Toe-pa *short A. as in "apple"* -zeh)

Ashanti (A- shon-tee)

Kayvon (Kay-von)



Names that you'd only find in a fantasy book:



Mazzaroth (Mazz-a-roth)

Vadoma *Not sure of how to pronounce yet.*

Eis (Ice)

Cadfan

Swapnil

Morpheus (Morph-E-us)

Seraphine (Sarah- feen)

Zenith (Zen-if)

Embry (Emm-bree)

Gausberto (gaus *rhymes with "house*" -berto)

Nexium (Nex-E-um)

Montserrat (Mont-sirr-at)

Lexus

Fulgencia (Full-jen-see-a)

Faustine (Faust *rhymes with frost*" -teen)

Katarzyna (Cat-R- zeen-a)



Different spellings of names:



Jawn (John)

Zhane (Shane)

Alivia (Olivia)

Zabrina (Sabrina)

Rian (Ryan)

Steffi (Stephie)

Navid (David)

Saira (Sarah)

Cailey (Kaylee)

Engel (Angel)

Wendelle (Wendell)

Biley (Billy)

Erril (Errol)

Robyn (Robin)



There you have it!
nikKi_lvjojo
2007-11-21 07:30:32 UTC
Amen to that, sister!!! I asked about baby names for my unborn child and mostly I got rude replies or people trying to re-name my child!! What's up with that!! All I was asking for was what people thought, they didn't have to be soo rude!
2007-11-21 08:01:57 UTC
i do agree with you,if it is your baby then you have the right to name it anything you want.people should mind there bussinse.you could even name your child angel(for example) so i do agree with you.
megalomaniac
2007-11-21 07:29:12 UTC
People seem to fear the unfamiliar. (and sadly that fear is often manifested as ridicule)





P.S. - Is it my unique name that is getting me all those thumbs down?
2007-11-21 07:32:24 UTC
I agree with you! I also like unique names and can't wait to have a baby of my own, so I can give him/her a unique name.
when the lights go dark
2007-11-21 08:40:20 UTC
here, here! couldnt have said it better myself
Yomoneyboat
2007-11-21 07:28:32 UTC
I'm going to name my kid "ASFJSDBFYIASTYCV," so I'm on your side here.
2007-11-21 07:27:12 UTC
i completely agree with you.


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